Toward Interdependence

1.)  My good feelings come from liking me, filling my emotional bank account
2.)  It is myself approval that determines how good I feel, not the approval of another
3.) How I feel about you does not control how I feel about myself
4.) I feel good about solving my problems and may even feel pain over solving others problems
5.) I am free to please myself even if it does not please you.
6.) I will stand up for myself first verses taking care of you
7.)  I will be truthful and honest regardless of the outcome
8.)  I will pursue my interest and hobbies even if it means spending time away from you
9.)  I will show up how I wish regardless of how you show up, please do what ever makes you feel good
10.) I know what I want and will openly let you know and then act on them
11.)  My wishes and dreams are mine regardless if you're in them or not
12.)  My commitment to myself will predict outcome verses any fear of rejection of keeping the status quos
13.)  I am able to receive and because capable receive, I can then give freely verses giving to feel safe
14.)  I have no control over your emotions and your emotions have no control over me
15.)  I hope you like the people I like and if you don't, oh well, I understand
16.)  My core values are my pillar and are sacred, I will not diminish them to be with you
17.)  I have opinions and I will not sacrifice them at the expense of your opinions

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